To Be A Happy Lesbian:
A Coming Out Guide
This 223 page book has a 5 Star Rating on Amazon, and contains everything a lesbian,
bisexual or questioning woman needs to arm herself in the world. Along with chapters
on anatomy, safer sex, communication, romance and making love, this guide includes
information on what is a lesbian and how to accept yourself if you are one; advice
on coming out and where to get help if you need it; the language of being lesbian
and how to own those names that you may be called; where to go to meet others
who are lesbian and the art of knowing who is and who isnt; a chapter on
lesbian and gay role models throughout history; and a section listing the top
lesbian films from 1928 to the present.
To Be A Happy Lesbian: A Coming Out Guide
Authors:Tracey Stevens/Cathy Wonder
13 digit ISBN: 978-0-9719628-0-4
Type and Size: Paperback and Ebook 5" x 8"
$17.95 Soft Cover, $16.95 Ebook Edition
Page Count: 223 Pages
Paperback Edition--Black and White, Ebook
Description: Self-help Guide, Nonfiction.
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Part of our Total Coming Out Support Package
for Lesbians, Bisexual and Questioning
this book you will discover: |
to accept yourself if you are a lesbian. |
on coming out and where to get help if you need it.|
language of being lesbian and what all the symbols mean. |
to go to meet others who are lesbian and the art of knowing who is and who isnt.
talk and suggestions on how to cope in the world today.|
and gay role models you may not have known about.|
skills and how to truly communicate, instead of fight, with your partner. |
on romance and how to love not only your partners body, but also her heart
and mind. |
anatomy including illustrations and descriptions of all those delicate parts.|
on making love including instructions on how to find some of the spots that please
a woman most.|
talk about safer sex, which contains a list of common sexually transmitted diseases
and their symptoms and general treatments.|
on childhood abuse issues which can block people from having healthy adult relationships,
and domestic partner abuse issues that sometimes stem from childhood abuse, includes
symptoms and how to get help if you need it.|
on counseling and what to expect if you see a therapist.|
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1 What does it mean to be a lesbian today?
and the connection of heart, mind, body, and soul
Coming out in a nonsupportive
Lesbian, gay, bisexual, straight, and all the in-betweens
So how do I recognize who is and whos not?
What exactly is Gaydar?
Homo bumper stickers on the highway of life
The symbols of being gay and what
Where do I go to meet the lesbian of my dreams?
To Be A Happy Lesbian is a must for newly out lesbians |
I'm a late bloomer. I've been in and out of the closet for years, but when I say
"out" I mean only a day or two! I've always jumped right back into the
closet, and I've been sad, alone, and miserable romantically and sexually my entire
life. A year ago I came out yet again, and I just happened to find a group on
line for helping lesbians who were just coming out. I joined the group, and thought
for sure that everyone there would be young women. I'm 57 years old, and I felt
very out of place, but what I found is that there were many women in the group
who were older...my age even. Anyway, what I found was an excellent group of women
who were intelligent and caring. This book, "How To Be A Happy Lesbian: A
Coming Out Guide" by Tracey Stevens and Cathy Wonder, was suggested reading.
I bought myself a copy right away. I do not think that I would have stayed out
of the closet for this whole year if it hadn't been for the group, and the coming
out guide. It is written simply and straightforwardly. It answered every single
question I had, and then some. I highly recommend this book. It talks about everything
from coming out to people we love, to lesbian dating, to gaydar, to STDs to be
careful of, to living in the world as a lesbian. There is a whole chapter introducing
the reader to a long list of famous women who were/are lesbian. There is a chapter
on the art of making lesbian love and romance, which is direct and to the point.
Everything you need to know about coming out and fitting your new self into the
world around you is in this book. It is a must read for newly out lesbians, and
lesbians who've been out for some time. I give it 5 stars, 10 if I could. Excellent
DJ Messier, Lewiston, Maine
Chapter 2 Body talk and basic lesbian anatomy
the use of learning this?
People ARE different.
What is bodily communication?
So what can a body say?
Erogenous zonesplaces that both give you chills
and make you hot
Breasts are more than Got Milk?
the vulva, and I dont mean the car
What is needed for those (of us) coming out!
I especially appreciated
how attention was given to the younger aged women/girls who are making this transition.
Tracey really puts emphasis on the importance of getting an education to enable
one to live the life they truly believe they were meant for, without having to
depend on anyone else. That kind of positive support, in this day and age is invaluable.
Though, I'm much older, I found the information to apply to me as well. Thanks!
MR (Los Angeles, CA)
3 Plain talk about safer sex
is safer sex?
But I thought lesbians couldnt get STDs from each other.
So what can I do to protect myself?
Handy items for safer sex
considered safe, risky, or unsafe behavior?
If you and your partner are considering
having a child
A serious warning
A list of STDs, their symptoms,
and general treatment
I'm not the type to write reviews on anything but I would
be a fool if I did not. This book is excellent and has enhanced my relationship
with my partner. I highly recommend this book.
Thomas Babylon, NY
4 Communication: the key to working relationships
rules of communication
Thems fightin words
How to discuss sexually transmitted disease
I am now an even Happier Lesbian...thanks to this book
I think this book is definitely a "bring yourself out of the closet book"
When I decided to come out I was a little bewildered...not wanting to go to any
support groups...not wanting everyone KNOWING I was a lesbian. I thought the lesbian's
would think I was fake, because I had no idea of the how to be lesbian, let alone
a happy one. I just knew I was attracted to women, always had been and had only
just decided to do something about it. Enter this great book, "How to be
a Happy Lesbian" and HELLO WORLD, I'm a Lesbian...I love women, and I'm proud
to be out. This book is so easy to read, so frank, so honest so matter of fact,
after reading it or bits of it that you zoom in to the parts that interest you
the most, i.e. communication chapter, or symbols of lesbianism, you feel so free...so
able to breathe and take on board your sexuality, to be proud of who you are.
If you are in the closet, coming out, or fully out, this book is a MUST!!
By Tara, Barcelona, Spain
5 Romance and the art of making lesbian love
the best way to keep a relationship happy
Some romantic things to do
Before foreplaywhat to do to get her, and you, in the mood
Do not be afraid of being a great lover
So how do I know when shes getting
in the mood
Foreplay, the next step to passion
The move to sexual intimacy
On to the breasts
Moving down south
Working towards orgasm
techniques and positions
Adult toyslets take the pleasure a step
Other ways of being sexual
Childhood abuse: sexual, physical,
Domestic Partner Abuse
A must have book for women loving women!
The coming out process can
be pretty scary and intimidating. When I was in search for information about being
a lesbian I found this wonderful book rightly named "A coming out guide"
to become a happy lesbian. Its title announces the world that is waiting for us
inside the book and out: a path of hope, pride and acceptance. The authors take
your hand and show you how being a lesbian is no shame or wrong. On the contrary,
with a gentle tone and openly discussing the most pressing questions for any woman
coming out, they rescued me from what I thought it was a deep obscure hole. I
am very grateful to the authors for sharing their experience and helping me being
a happy loving lesbian. I recommend the book not only to coming out women but
to their families and friends. It is full of advice, tips and information. It
even includes movie reviews. This is a must have book for women loving women--Excellent!
M. C. Trujillom, Maryland
6 Dealing with the outside world
and closet cases
The radical Christian ReichI mean right!
the deal with the Gay Agenda?
soul choice, heredity, or a result of environment?
Just finished reading the Coming Out Guide with my girl, well sort of since we
are still half way around the world from each other. We just wanted to say Thanks
Tracey and Kathy and we both enjoyed it. She's been out to her family for awhile
now but I'm not, as of yet anyway. We both enjoyed reading it and had some great
discussions over it online together.
Heather D. Los Angeles, CA
7 Living in the primarily heterosexual USA
civil rights in the USA
Dont laws protect us from discrimination?
Why arent we protected? We pay taxes too!
The privilege of being
Heterosexism, a right of the majority?
This book is very well written. It is well organized and an easy read.
It is clear and concise and very informative. This is a MUST HAVE for any book
collection. When I finally admitted I was a lesbian I was confused and had a million
questions. This book answered them all. The extensive list of resources alone
is worth the purchase price. I have a few chapters I am constantly referring back
to. It is great to have all that knowledge at my fingertips. Stevens/Wunder have
written the only coming out guide you will ever need. I recommend this book not
only to lesbians but to their friends and family as well.
B. New York, NY
8 Our own role models
Susan B. Anthony
Katharine Lee Bates
Rita Mae Brown
Patricia Nell Warren
The Woman Chief
of the Crow Indians
Some famous gay male role models
Be strong and proud
Newbie with lots to learn
It never occurred to me that Happy
and Lesbian could be in the same sentence. Through the support I have received
and this book I now believe it is possible. This book is a whole relationship
guide which is cool. Not many books take you from how to meet them to how to live
with them. The history and terminology and everything included makes it a very
helpful and well rounded book for everyone not just those coming out.
9 Lesbian fiction and film
of the top lesbian films
A definite read if you love woman
Kia ora ~ This book has been a godsend.
I am not one to read much but completed this book, cover to cover in two days.
It was great to finally realize that the feelings I was having were completely
normal and that I was not alone. It is an easy to read book that openly and honestly
covers topics relating being a lesbian. The information on safe sex was important
as it was something I had not considered and would have been far too embarrassed
to ask. I live in New Zealand and have not been able to find anything as comprehensive
as "How to Be a Happy Lesbian" here in my home country. The added bonus
is that I am now part of a fantastic Support Group for Woman Coming Out and am
able to share experiences with woman all over the world. This book is written
for anyone who loves woman. I have passed it on to my girlfriend to read next.
I also work as a Social Worker and would certainly recommend it to anyone struggling
with their sexuality.
Rainbow Angel (New Zealand)
10 Counseling, from a therapists point of view
What do the mental health associations say about lesbians?
Your options for
The counseling process
Some methods used in therapy
Through the looking glass:
for therapists unfamiliar with lesbians and gay men
Wonderful for anyone curious about why women love women!
This book not
only is for women who are coming out of the closet, but it is also for anyone
who wants a real perspective on Lesbians. The writers use real world examples
and experiences to the reader and give a candid understanding of Lesbian life.
This is an eye opening read for anyone with questions and I am glad it was there
for me to pass onto others. Read it even if you're not a lesbian and you will
find out what many already know...lesbians are people just like you.
Things Ive learned as a lesbian so far
A joyful summary
to authors Tracey Stevens and Cathy Wonder.
To Be A Happy Lesbian: A Coming Out Guide is truly a worthwhile read for women
of any age who are questioning or coming to terms with being lesbian or bisexual.
Every aspect of life is covered...everything from how to know whether or not one
is lesbian or bi, sex, safe sex, how to handle discrimination, how to choose a
therapist if needed, dealing with issues of abuse, just living daily life, and
much, much more. The chapter on communication was outstanding. This book is written
with warmth, honesty and humor. I don't think any woman could read A Coming Out
Guide and not feel a greater sense of respect and pride for herself.
The subjects covered and the information are good not only for those just coming
out but for those who have been out for a while. And also helpful for friends
and family that are caring and wanting to know what their loved one is facing
and going through. Tracey Stevens has also set up a discussion group, Support
For Lesbians Coming Out (SFLCO) that provides confidentiality, respect and support
in a safe arena for hundreds of women coming out or just trying to determine where
they fit in this sexual continuum. Kudos to Stevens and Wunder for work well done!