Table of Contents
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Chapter 1: What does it mean to be a lesbian today?
Lesbianism and the connection of heart, mind, body, and soul
Coming out in a nonsupportive environment
Lesbian, gay, bisexual, straight, and all the in-betweens
So how do I recognize who is and who’s not?
What exactly is Gaydar?
Homo bumper stickers on the highway of life
The symbols of being gay and what they mean
Where do I go to meet the lesbian of my dreams?

Chapter 2: Body talk and basic lesbian anatomy
What’s the use of learning this?
People ARE different.
What is bodily communication?
So what can a body say?
Erogenous zones—places that both give you chills and make you hot
Breasts are more than “Got Milk?”
Introducing the vulva, and I don’t mean the car

Chapter 3: Plain talk about safer sex
What is safer sex?
But I thought lesbians couldn’t get STDs from each other.
So what can I do to protect myself?
Handy items for safer sex
What’s considered safe, risky, or unsafe behavior?
If you and your partner are considering having a child
A serious warning
A list of STDs, their symptoms, and general treatment
For more info

Chapter 4: Communication: the key to working relationships
Basic rules of communication
Them’s fightin’ words
Coming out
Trust
How to discuss sexually transmitted disease
Pillow talk

Chapter 5: Romance and the art of making lesbian love
Romance, the best way to keep a relationship happy
Some romantic things to do
First things first
Before foreplay—what to do to get her, and you, in the mood
Do not be afraid of being a great lover
So how do I know when she’s getting in the mood
Foreplay, the next step to passion
The move to sexual intimacy
On to the breasts
Moving down south
Working towards orgasm
Some other techniques and positions
Adult toys—let’s take the pleasure a step further
Other ways of being sexual
Childhood abuse: sexual, physical, and emotional
Domestic Partner Abuse

Chapter 6: Dealing with the outside world
MCs and closet cases
The radical Christian Reich—I mean right!
What is the deal with the “Gay Agenda”?
Gay animals?
Being lesbian—a soul choice, heredity, or a result of environment?

Chapter 7: Living in the primarily heterosexual USA
Our “civil rights” in the USA
Don’t laws protect us from discrimination?
Why aren’t we protected? We pay taxes too!
The privilege of being heterosexual
Heterosexism, a right of the majority?
Heterosexual, choice or not?

Chapter 8: Our own role models
Famous lesbians then and now:
Jane Addams
Susan B. Anthony
Katharine Lee Bates
Marie-Rosalie Bonheur
Rita Mae Brown
Ellen DeGeneres
Emily Dickinson
Melissa Etheridge
Anna Freud
Radclyffe Hall
k.d. Lang
Martina Navratilova
Florence Nightingale
Eleanor Roosevelt
Sappho
Bessie Smith
Gertrude Stein
Alice Walker
Patricia Nell Warren
Virginia Woolf
The Woman Chief of the Crow Indians
Some famous gay male role models
Be strong and proud

Chapter 9: Lesbian fiction and film
Some of the top lesbian films

Chapter 10: Counseling, from a therapist’s point of view
Introduction
What do the mental health associations say about lesbians?
Your options for counseling
The counseling process
Some methods used in therapy
Confidentiality
Considerations
Through the looking glass:
A section for therapists unfamiliar with lesbians and gay men

Chapter 11: Coping with the world as a lesbian
The hard knocks
Things I’ve learned as a lesbian so far
A joyful summary

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Reference Books
Internet Articles
Helping your family understand
Books to help your parents, family, and friends
Organizations that fight for our rights
Where to go for help if you’ve been sexually abused
Lesbian friendly places to buy books, videos, toys, and do other stuff
Internet info, hosting, and searching
How to find other lesbians with similar interests